My boss or team is holding me back from my career success. A common drama-making script that people often write around their work life is one that focuses on someone else keeping them from what they really want. When we believe this we are putting ourselves in the role of a victim.
What is the antidote? Remind yourself that you are not a victim. You are capable. There are many ways to change how you interact with others. Begin by changing your beliefs. Consider telling yourself that you can experience success at work. If the above statement is actually true you may need to evaluate your decision to commit to your existing position or perhaps move on. The decision is not dependent on just your boss, your team or even your company; remember it is your decision. Include your capable self when you assess your career.
It is not possible for me to have what I really want. If you believe this it certainly will come true. Are you over tired or overly stressed when you hear yourself saying this to yourself or believing this statement?
What is the antidote? You may need to begin by resting up. Allow your creative self and practical imagination the time to reflect. Give yourself the opportunity to brainstorm, innovate and consider something new. Make a list of all the things you have that you want and need. Then evaluate the amount of your time and energy it will require to create what you really want. Remember the universal axiom: I can have what I really need and maybe you already do!
I do not deal well with change or uncertainty. The truth is we all like to feel in control or experience a sense of safety in order to reflect our ability to be effective. The reality we face however is that change is a constant. Perhaps it is just that people are more aware of how vulnerable they can be at different times.
What is the antidote? Remember that in a collective way people are learning to be real and even honest about how awkward change can be. The unpredictable nature of being alive is a given and we constantly are challenged in our ability to adapt and learn. Practice the skills that assist you in connecting to the changing world. Believe in your ability to adapt and accept the inevitable truth: Things change.
Asking for help is weak—others will see me as incompetent or stupid if I ask for support. We forget that we are helping someone else when we ask for assistance or advice. It gives others the opportunity to be needed and to share their expertise, skills and knowledge.
What is the antidote? Remind yourself that you need to practice receiving or allowing others to assist you. In turn, you can show your appreciation, which is a valuable part of any collaboration.